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welcome! to emotional feelings!
after looking things over here at emotional feelings,
try out "the layer down under," (part of the emotional feelings network of sites) & read a special "i
just gotta say it" column concerning porn addiction by clicking here! Be sure to scroll down towards the bottom of the right hand column to find it!
another important suggestion... visit
this homepage to learn more about the features included within the emotional feelings network of
sites!
I was personally very touched by this inspiring story as I watched it on
television last night (2/27/07); especially after I experienced a life altering injury which took me 2 years to recover from.
What I want to ask you is...
If you can't help out with the helmets, below for our military men, can
you volunteer or help our returning soldiers who are recovering with extreme traumatic brain injury?
Here are some links!
Check them out, I know that my family will be searching for a way we can help!
Remember that those with traumatic or extreme physical injuries most often develop problems with their mental health!
What is Operation Helmet?
Founded in 2003 by Dr. Robert H. Meaders whose grandson is an active duty Marine in Iraq, Operation Helmet is a nonpartisan 501(c)(3) organization dedicated
to providing safer helmet pad upgrade kits to the troops in Iraq & Afghanistan.
To date, more than 6,000 kits have been shipped to the troops in the field.
 
How this site works best for you!
You'll
notice that there are many underlined link words in each article below. The reason for this is that you have reached not only, "emotional
feelings, the home site," but the emotional feelings network of sites. There are
many sites included within the network that'll be visited by clicking on these underlined link words.
If you can't find what you came
here looking for, visit the homepage for the emotional feelings network of sites by clicking above & read the options on
the homepage for the networks index of sites. Try to be specific when looking for an emotion or feeling word & click on the site you need!
It's very simple & very
interesting to follow your way thru the layers of your buried or stuffed emotions & feelings that have accumulated throughout the years!
when you've reached this point, or this website, you know you're making
progress!!!! this part gets difficult because now is the time to look within & become emotionally honest with yourself!!!
Best of luck & if you're
still stuck, send me an e-mail anytime, by clicking
here & I'll be glad to send you an immediate personal response!
Sincerely,
Kathleen
 
Walking meditation: being aware of your body
We begin by being aware of our bodies. This is the first "basis of mindfulness." It's useful to begin any meditation session (whether seated or walking) by paying attention to those parts
of the body that are in contact with the ground.
This helps to stabilize &
ground the mind, making it calmer & less likely to wander. So in this practice I usually start with becoming aware of
my feet - first standing & then walking.
Then I lead my awareness systematically thru my body, relaxing each part of my body as I bring in into the center of my focus. It's important to remember to experience these sensations, rather than think about them.
Thinking about sensations keep us trapped in our heads & perpetuates patterns of anxiety, craving, etc. By experiencing our sensations, on the other hand, we help to cut down on unproductive thinking & bring about more calmness.
Remember to relax each part of your body as you become conscious of it. This practice is a wonderful opportunity to practice letting go. You can really notice how your walk changes as you relax.
Compared to sitting meditation, you may find that it's far easier to be aware of your body while walking. A lot
of people find that being aware of their bodies is much easier when their muscles &
skin etc. are in motion.
This can make walking meditation into a very powerful & intense practice. Most of us live rather too much "in our heads" & when we find a way to bring our awareness into our bodies it can be a positive relief & even a great pleasure.
It's particularly interesting
to become aware of the angle that you hold your head at. The angle of your head has a huge
impact upon your experience. If your chin is tucked into your chest & you're looking at the ground in front of you, you'll
almost certainly find that you become caught up in a very cyclical pattern of emotion.
If your chin is in the air,
you'll probably find that you're either caught up in thoughts or in the outside world. We'll look at this again in the section on "balancing inner & outer."
personal note: this is a very important topic... read
more about it at the source site by clicking here! There's much more important info there to read as well!
12 Questions Every Parent Must Ask About Their Child's Mental
Health - Being Aware Of Your Child's Mental Health
Does my child ...
1. Often seem sad, tired, restless, or out of sorts?
2. Spend a lot of time alone?
3. Have low self-esteem?
4. Have trouble getting along with family, friends & peers?
5. Have frequent outbursts of shouting, complaining, or crying?
6. Have trouble performing or behaving in school?
7. Show sudden changes in eating patterns?
8. Sleep too much or not enough?
9. Have trouble paying attention or concentrating on tasks like homework?
10. Seem to have lost interest in hobbies like music or sports?
11. Show signs of using drugs &/or alcohol?
12. Talk about death or suicide?
If you answered yes
to 4 or more of these questions & these behaviors last longer than 2 weeks, you should seek professional help for your child.
For more information, contact:
SAMHSA's National Mental Health Information
Center
800-789-2647
www.mentalhealth.org
We had an employee who was a compulsive gambler & unfortunately,
he lost his job because of absenteeism. When confronted, he always appeared in control. However, he was only in control of his excuses. What more could I have done to help him?
Although you can’t
diagnose a compulsive gambler, being aware of signs &
symptoms of performance problems can help you determine whether referral to the EAP is necessary.
Symptoms of compulsive gambling may include:
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being chronically late for work
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unexplained absences or disappearances from work
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abusing sick leave
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taking long lunch or phone breaks
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leaving work early to gamble or meet a bookie
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taking vacations at gambling destinations
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borrowing money from coworkers
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having conflicts with them about money owed to them
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requesting salary advances
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family members calling to inquire about the
salary of the employee
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using petty cash to float a loan
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requesting pay
instead of vacation time
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stealing company-owned
merchandise or property
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falsifying expense
accounts
Without an effective
performance appraisal process, some employees will gradually
demonstrate problematic workplace behaviors that otherwise wouldn't
appear. The performance evaluation in fluences a constructive sense of urgency that contributes to productivity & positive workplace behaviors.
Even the
best, most self-disciplined employees benefit from performance appraisals, not only because
of the recognition that comes from a job well done, but also because of the
certainty of an adverse response from an unsatisfactory
evaluation.
Other important benefits of performance appraisals are their contribution to boundaries & the promotion of an influential
relationship between the supervisor & the employee.
A meaningful performance evaluation is an important management tool that keeps these boundaries from becoming obscure, the result being diminished authority
crucial to the supervisor’s role.
Coaching may be
an option for you & the EAP may offer help, or know of
resources in the community where you can turn. The EAP may have additional suggestions for you, depending on your discussion.
Coaching has become popular in the past several years, but it isn't a regulated
or licensed profession. It entails working with a trained
& quali fied person under a formal agreement. The coach will discuss performance outcomes, expectations & commitment within the coaching relationship.
Coaching can be
done over the phone or in person. The coach will ask you an
extensive series of questions, develop a plan & guide you step-by-step to help you achieve your desired goal. As the coaching relationship ends, you will review your
goals, progress & the effectiveness of the coaching experience.
By the time you’re
done, you should have a support system & a plan of action to maintain the behaviors & relationships you achieved during the coaching period.
Your employee’s
response to your confrontation doesn't re flect her interest in correcting her performance or taking responsibility for her problems. It's natural to assume that your employee
would dismiss any attempt to refer her to the EAP.
However, EA professionals
have consistently observed that most employees such as the one you describe
will eventually come to the EAP if a progressive disciplinary
process is used. In fact, the defensiveness you witness may ironically be a clue to her amenability
to a referral. She also may feel guilty about her poor performance. You can’t tell from her reaction.
Her difficulty
in accepting your confrontation may be attributed to the work environment,
the nature of a personal problem if one exists, her personality, or other unknown factors. Below the surface of her defensiveness she could be hurting & wanting help for an unmanageable personal problem.
My employee appears arrogant when confronted about performance
problems. Although her work issues
are obvious, I feel like I'm the bad guy when
I confront her. I don’t think this describes someone who would ever go
to the EAP, correct?
Awareness
Developing / Focusing your Awareness
- key to happiness, health & freedom
Being aware
in the moment is the essence of many esoteric, mystery, spiritual & ancient schools & teachings.
Excerpt from , "Friendship
with God" by Donald Neale Walsch
"I have come here to wake you up.
You're awake now. You are aware. Awareness is a state
of being. You're being aware. From this state of awareness,
you can choose any other beingness. You can choose to be wise, or wonderful. You can choose to be compassionate & understanding. You can choose to be patient & forgiving.
Can't I simply choose to be
happy?
Yes
How? How do I do that?
Don't do it. Simply be it.
Do not try to 'do' happy. Simply choose to 'be' happy & everything you'll do will spring from that. It will be given birth by that. What you are being gives birth to what
you're doing. Always remember that.
But how can I choose to be happy? Isn't it happiness something that happens? I mean, isn't something that I just am because of something that is happening, or going to happen.
No! It is something
that you can choose to be because of what is happening, or going to happen. You are choosing just to be happy. Haven't you seen 2 people reacting entirely differently to the same outer set of circumstances.
Of course. But that happens
because the circumstances meant something different to each of them.
You determine
what something means! You give it its meaning. Until you decide what something means, it has no meaning at all. Remember that.
Nothing means anything at all.
Out of your state if
beingness will meaning spring. It is you who are choosing to be sad. Or choosing to be angry, or mollifired, or forgiving, or enlightened, or whatever. You are choosing. You. Not something outside of yourself. And you are choosing quite arbitrarily.
Now, here's the great secret.
You can choose a state of beingness before something happends, just as you do after something happens. Thus, you can create
your experience, not simply have it.
You are in fact, doing this
right now. In every moment. Yet you may be doing it unconsciously. You may be as someone sleepwalking. If so, it's now time
to wake up.
Yet you can't be totally awake
while you're thinking. Thinking is another form of being in a dream state. Because what you're thinking about is the illusion, you've placed yourself there, so you should give it some thought.
But remember,
thought creates reality, so if you've created a reality that you don't like, don't give it a second thought.
"Nothing is evil, lest
thinking make it so."
Precisely. So every once in
a while, it might be good to stop to thinking all together. To get in touch with a higher reality. To pop out of the illusion.
Excerpt from Friendship with God, Neale Donald Walsch, pp 198 - 206
Identity Doesn't Die
Awareness will
never experience non-awareness, death. The one who is already dead (not the one who appears
to die) is the one who says, “Life is mine. God is MY life.” The “my” who says “mine”
is the possessor, the liar from the beginning.
This one can be loosed
& let go here & now if one will simply, consciously, be what he is already. What is that?
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unencumbered
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unjudging
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unpossessed
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motiveless
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opinionless
Awareness ITSELF.
No effort is necessary.
What is the activity of Awareness?
To behold, witness,
see - acknowledge, love & be!
Does Awareness have authority
to judge?
Awareness is Awareness, not an evaluator. It makes distinctions, not judgments. “This is a hickory tree,” it says. “That is a mountain.” It is the poor judge who agonizes over bad hickory trees.
It isn't enough
to proclaim that there's no human identification while one continues to identify himself as one; nor is it enough to attempt
to enjoy the benefits of 2 identities,
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one considered "real"
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the other "unreal"
Most
especially, it's futile to work one against the other so that a human sense of self will fare better because of a knowledge of a "higher" order of being.
Listen to the simplicity of the New Idea: Spirit is being this Awareness of being.
The function of Awareness is Spirit's responsibility & it doesn't belong to another called you, me, he, she or it. We aren't concerned about he, she or it, however; we're concerned with the only one we can be concerned about - this Awareness being I.
What must we do in order
to let Spirit - Infinite Intelligence, Power, Authority & Being - be all in all?
We simply let go the futile notion there is a "me" or a "you" using this consciousness. It's as simple as that. If one thinks this
is to be languid & lazy or to languish in an ivory tower of mental escapism (as intellectualism
- & Macbeth - inevitably charge), let him try it! Just let him try it!
Very quickly he
finds it far removed from "doing nothing." To those bold enough to offer up the old ego in honest sacrifice, this "world experience"
breaks forth into astonishing, joy-filled, "busy" adventures.
by W. Samuel - Full article on reality page
The essence of many holistic
approaches or spiritual paths is that you develop awareness - train your mind
The aim is to
stop the mind wandering & clinging to distractions & thoughts of past, future - worry, fear, greed etc.
Be here now! Rest
in peaceful awareness!
Be aware
of the voidness / emptiness of reality!
eg. Meditation, Buddhism etc.
eg. Alexander technique - being aware of posture in the moment
eg. healing - being aware of energy
healthy eating - conscious eating, Conscious Parenting,
etc.
'Energy follows thought'
Bringing your awareness
/ attention to something , brings energy there, 'you manifest
what you focus on'
Exercise: close your eyes & just focus on on of your hands. Soon, if you can keep focused & calm, you'll notice the temperature in your hand rising.
Relax. Just stop
thinking, start feeling, just being aware of your senses. eg. breath, hearing, taste / smell, sight (focusing on one object), etc.
Who am I?
I am the awareness
/ silence that I am
I am the silent witness, who observes, without judgment
This is what Awakening
/ becoming enlightened / god - realized is about - being consciously
aware in the present moment reality - the eternal ever-refreshing flow of Is-ness
With awareness
you get insight, acceptance & relaxation.
I am whatever I identify with!!
read more
10 levels of Awareness
Donald Neale-Walsch
dreamt the following levels (from Seminar in London 2000)
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sufferer
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seeker
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finder
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knower
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experimenter
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