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welcome! to emotional feelings!
after looking things over here at emotional feelings,
try out "the layer down under," (part of the emotional feelings network of sites) & read a special "i
just gotta say it" column concerning porn addiction by clicking here! Be sure to scroll down towards the bottom of the right hand column to find it!
another important suggestion... visit
this homepage to learn more about the features included within the emotional feelings network of
sites!
I was personally very touched by this inspiring story as I watched it on
television last night (2/27/07); especially after I experienced a life altering injury which took me 2 years to recover from.
What I want to ask you is...
If you can't help out with the helmets, below for our military men, can
you volunteer or help our returning soldiers who are recovering with extreme traumatic brain injury?
Here are some links!
Check them out, I know that my family will be searching for a way we can help!
Remember - extreme or traumatic physical injuries can have a deep impact on mental health!
What is Operation Helmet?
Founded in 2003 by Dr. Robert H. Meaders whose grandson is an active duty Marine in Iraq, Operation Helmet is a nonpartisan 501(c)(3) organization dedicated
to providing safer helmet pad upgrade kits to the troops in Iraq & Afghanistan.
To date, more than 6,000 kits have been shipped to the troops in the field.
  How this site works best for you!
You'll
notice that there are many underlined link words in each article below. The reason for this is that you have reached not only, "emotional
feelings, the home site," but the emotional feelings network of sites. There are
many sites included within the network that'll be visited by clicking on these underlined link words.
If you can't find what you came
here looking for, visit the homepage for the emotional feelings network of sites by clicking above & read the options on
the homepage for the networks index of sites. Try to be specific when looking for an emotion or feeling word & click on the site you need!
It's very simple & very
interesting to follow your way thru the layers of your buried or stuffed emotions & feelings that have accumulated throughout the years!
when you've reached this point, or this website, you know you're making
progress!!!! this part gets difficult because now is the time to look within & become emotionally honest with yourself!!!
Best of luck & if you're
still stuck, send me an e-mail anytime, by clicking
here & I'll be glad to send you an immediate personal response!
Sincerely,
Kathleen
Agitation or Acting Out: This would represent a departure from normal or socially appropriate behavior. It might include:
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being disruptive
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restlessness
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hyperactivity
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Disorientation
Drug & Alcohol Abuse
Suicidal thoughts
Violence & Aggression
as
you can see... agitation represent some pretty
negative situations... & if you're feeling agitated, it's time to do something about it. please
talk to someone about how you'r feeling... it's time for you to start acting as an adult because you'll be one soon &
be responsible for yourself by taking care of yourself...
soon
you'll find out that it's you...
& you alone... that'll take the best (or worst) care of you...
something to consider...
agitated depression
This term
is applied to depressive disorders in which agitation is prominent. The patient is restless, paces
up & down, occupies him or herself w/purposeless activities, or starts tasks which are soon abandoned.
Agitation occurs
in many severe depressive disorders, but in agitated depression it's particularly severe. There's no reason to suppose that agitated depression differs in other important respects from other depressive disorders. The condition is seen more commonly
among the middle aged & elderly than among younger patients, but if you feel as though this description matches you, talk
to your parent, doctor or mental health professional about it so that you can get some relief...
my agitation
with life....
agitation begins with an "a"
"a" feeling of discomfort within
"a" fleeting remorse of my soul
"a" knowing that nobody needs
agitation turns my emotion with "g"
the "g" that begins with mind's gears
the "g" that causes them to grind
continuing to grow restlessly....
agitation involves both the "i's"
seeing i"ntensely from somewhere within
sealing "i"njury that takes time to heal
"i"nseparable "i"nsults "i"mbibed....
agitation's two "t's" tatter hope
littering my life with utter misdeeds
agitation's two t's fettered by
agitation's "o"nly negative side
agitation's other letter - the "a"
"a"ssumes that word does not sway
it "a"llows the continuing seed
of "a"lternative angry deeds
agitation that ends with an "n"
completes that here and the "n"ow
"n"ever allow me to live with some peace
and "n"egates any "n"otion of ease
Common
Causes of Agitation
click on the underlined links to learn more...
as
you can see above....
there
is a direct link from diet (vitamin B6 deficiency) and how you feel emotionally....
there
is also a connection with your negative coping methods and how your emotions can rule your life.... (drug use, alcohol abuse,
and smoking) so...
think again when you make a choice
to use drugs, alcohol or smoking to make you feel better, it's really just "aggravating" the situation....
what can you do that's good to relieve agitation?
A calm environment, plenty of sleep, adequate lighting & any measure to reduce stress may help to decrease agitation. Avoid restraining an overly-agitated person if possible, since this usually makes the problem worse.
Communication of feelings is important.
is an opposite sex friendship in your life causing your spouse to become agitated?
Is opposite-sex friendship
or at least intense opposite-sex friendship, a form of “unfaithfulness” to marriage, or is it “really an affair”?
Based on what people have typed into search engines to find my page, this seems to be a common question. Although I've addressed it elsewhere, I feel that it would be useful to have a whole
article devoted to opposite-sex friendship & the question of “infidelity.”
(Please note that,
depending on your circumstances, you may have encountered the same jealousy or distrust in a same-sex friendship; most of what is said here will apply to this situation too.)
My position on this matter is simple: Good marriages respect friendship, in all its forms & spousal jealousy or fear of “possible” consequences isn't a good enough reason to end a friendship.
Would
you support someone being arrested because somebody else thinks they “might” shoplift at some future time? What if the government
was worried that you “might” entertain allegiances to another country & monitored your speech & writing
for possible “unauthorized” emotions?
You probably would see that as a violation of your human rights.
Then why apply the law-enforcement tactics of a totalitarian state to your own marriage?
Isn’t
sexuality inevitable in a close opposite-sex relationship between heterosexuals?
“Sexuality
isn't some irrational, uncontrollable beast... but rather is a rational passion that reaches toward others but remains under the control of our will.”
-- Elizabeth Stuart, “Just a Perfect
Blendship,” in Our
Families, Our Values, 173.
Take a look
at the quote above. Sexuality, like other hungers, doesn't demand fulfillment, it only makes it possible. And yet, entire repressive social systems have been
constructed one the one fallacious assumption that people & particularly men, are prisoners of their sexual urges.
Why did the
Taliban make women wear the burka & only go out w/ a male relative? Why did
their windows have to be painted black? Why were they not permitted to see male
doctors? The Taliban’s restrictions are only a very extreme version of the
same distrust that is practiced in American families.
Men are seen as absolutely incapable of controlling their own sexuality & somehow it becomes women’s job to “protect” them from themselves. In America, the policing is done in the family rather
than by the state & is often of a more gender-neutral variety (although the old patriarchal
variety still abounds as well).
It won’t keep anybody from getting decent health care or result in them getting stoned,
like the Taliban version, but it can create some truly messy heartbreaks.
It's breathtakingly
obvious that all the muscles involved in sexuality are under voluntary control. And so, obviously some self-control is required to be in a tender or emotional friendship with an attractive person without it turning
sexual.
But self-control is also very useful in parenting, work & other areas of life. You'd hardly
want to marry someone with no self-control & then “fix” the problem by forbidding opposite-sex friendships!
The lack of self-control would still be evident in other areas, perhaps they get in a tiff with the boss & end up unemployed, or perhaps they
buy a new car on a whim, or whatever, but the better solution would be to find someone with self-control.
Saying that “when a woman looks like X, a man can’t help himself,” or some such,
is more about abdicating responsibility than it is about sexuality anyhow.
If you trust a person enough to give them full legal access to all your bank accounts, half-title to your house,
half-custody of your children, & all the rest, then why would you fail to trust them with their own sexuality?
If they're trustworthy & if they promised monogamy (some partners mutually agree not to be monogamous & so obviously need not be held to a promise they didn’t make), then they'll keep their promise.
If they're
not trustworthy, you probably shouldn’t have married them in the first place.
“I’m the one who wants my spouse to cut off a friend & I’m sure they'll choose me over them.”
Don’t be so sure. Despite
the social status of marriage & the huge pressure on people to see romantic relationships as “serious” & “long-term” & friendships as “unimportant,”
many people will react strongly to your attempt to control their friendships.
In two cases I know
of personally, someone tried to get their partner (not me, someone else) to cut off a friend
& the romantic partner got dumped instead! Moreover, the battered women’s shelter where I work defines “isolation from friends & family” as a type of emotional abuse.
Many people are aware that the person who tries to cut off one serious friendship will probably try to cut off others in the future &
will see your actions as a sign that you're excessively controlling (even if they don’t actually consider you to be abusive).
The question of gender & sexual orientation
Often, the
assumption made by spouses fearful of opposite-sex friendship is that same-sex friendship is okay because it can’t generate serious emotions.
People who make this assumption about heterosexual women are flying in the face of history, after all, whole social movements have been founded on heterosexual women’s
friendships with each other!
The history in
the rest of this site also makes it clear that men’s “lack of emotion” in each other’s presence is often a studious self-delusion; emotional connection has to do with spiritual & pragmatic values, outlook on life, shared interests & the like,
none of which is particularly connected to gender (however loath people may be to admit this!).
Some straight men are even aware of this & will defend their emotional connections to male friends if attacked. If you're afraid that your spouse might have strong emotions about somebody other than you, you'll have to be worried with both sexes.
One bizarre aspect
of gender-based trust in friendship is that it really calls into question the depth of people’s
so-called “affectional preference.”
I'm always amazed by the tendency of heterosexual men to define themselves as “men who love only women,” but then only have friendships with other men!
Their “love of women” is expressed thru only one relationship, of any kind, with any women & although they're wont to
pontificate on the allegedly “innate” differences between the sexes, they often have little or no knowledge of
actual cultural differences between the sexes.
Opposite-sex friendships may actually help your marriage by giving your spouse another
reference point for “what women (or men) are like,” making it more clear to
them that although there are some broad cultural differences, individuals deviate from those norms & history shows that
the differences aren't particularly “innate.”
It's no accident that opposite-sex friendship is most forbidden in those cultures where gender
stereotyping & sexism are most rampant.
It should
be pointed out that the above paragraph applies equally to gay & bisexual people: in the same-sex romances I've been in,
my partners have sometimes made equally ludicrous stereotypical statements about our own gender (usually as an attempt to defend annoying behaviors that they would like to claim are “innate”).&
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