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I was personally very touched by this inspiring story as I watched it on
television last night (2/27/07); especially after I experienced a life altering injury which took me 2 years to recover from.
What I want to ask you is...
If you can't help out with the helmets, below for our military men, can
you volunteer or help our returning soldiers who are recovering with extreme traumatic brain injury?
Here are some links!
Check them out, I know that my family will be searching for a way we can help!
Remember that those experiencing a traumatic injury can easily develop mental health problems.
What is Operation Helmet?
Founded in 2003 by Dr. Robert H. Meaders whose grandson is an active duty Marine in Iraq, Operation Helmet is a nonpartisan 501(c)(3) organization dedicated
to providing safer helmet pad upgrade kits to the troops in Iraq & Afghanistan.
To date, more than 6,000 kits have been shipped to the troops in the field.
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It's very simple & very
interesting to follow your way thru the layers of your buried or stuffed emotions & feelings that have accumulated throughout the years!
when you've reached this point, or this website, you know you're making
progress!!!! this part gets difficult because now is the time to look within & become emotionally honest with yourself!!!
Best of luck & if you're
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Sincerely,
Kathleen
 the following was found in the Dayton Daily News to my surprise!!!! as you might not know, that's where i'm
located!!!! i was pleasantly surprised to see this tasty tidbit of very good info! kathleen
By Lisa Biedenbach | Friday, February 10, 2006,
02:38 AM
While chopping leeks &
mincing garlic cloves for Italian sausage & white bean soup one night recently, I recalled how I got hooked on cooking
gourmet recipes.
It was the autumn of 1997
& my sister & I were worn out from the daily caregiving of our elderly parents. A brochure from The Cooking School at Jungle Jim’s arrived in my mail & I telephoned my sister & told her we had
to sign up for a class.
The brochure promised 3 hours
of learning to cook a handful of exotic recipes under the tutelage of a pair of master chefs. We paid our fees & showed
up at the colorful Jungle Jim’s in Fairfield, ready to forget our woes for awhile & spend time together doing something fun for a change.
That first class found us
soon totally absorbed in learning new cooking techniques & a few
fun facts about food & tasting food prepared by someone else. We didn’t have to lift a finger - a departure from
the hours upon hours we had been spending preparing meals for our father who no longer could swallow most foods.
For months we
had pureed & packaged our own meals on wheels to deliver to Dad & Mom.
My sister & I sat next
to each other at a high table - one of 8 stations, each with 5 seats - & felt no compulsion to chat with our fellow students.
We held a packet of recipes for the evening’s class & leafed thru them as the master chefs demonstrated & lectured.
We took notes
at times. We ate with relish the samples of each dish cooked & sipped thirstily the glass of wine selected to complement
the evening’s meal.
At the end of 3 hours, we
put down our forks, donned our coats, grabbed our recipes & headed for the door. The cooking school director, Carol Tabone,
asked us how we liked the class. “It was great,” I told her. “We got to sit quietly for 3 hours, no one
bothered us, we learned a few things, someone cooked for us & we didn’t have to clean up. It was cheaper & better
than therapy.”
A few months ago,
at a cooking class that taught how to prepare several different kinds of fish, I mentioned this first class to the newcomers
sitting next to me. By now a veteran of almost 40 classes, I spoke of how therapeutic the cooking classes were to me.
The man next to
me said nothing, but 2 hours later, during a short break, he looked at me & said quietly, “I see now
what you mean about cooking being therapy. I buried my father this morning.”
Why is cooking therapeutic?
It requires focus. It has a beginning & an end & provides fairly quick results.
It offers a means to use new or well-honed skills. It gives us a chance to connect with Mother Earth & her bounty of fruits & vegetables & herbs & spices & meats & so on. It appeals to all our senses - sight, sound, smell, taste & touch.
We are fully human when we cook.
It's better than therapy.
 
Do you find gratitude difficult to maintain? You get up each morning & tell yourself that you will keep your positive focus & be grateful for everything that happens.
As the day goes on, however, these good intentions just sort of run out of steam as you deal with negative people & situations. The good news is that you can accomplish this with practice. Part of the difficulty in maintaining an attitude of gratitude is that you're trying to change a lifetime of negative thinking.
If you have spent most of your life focusing on the negative, go a little easy on yourself & don't try to change your thinking at all once. We all try to do that when we set good intentions.
It does take practice & here is a good place to start: do it for today. For just
one day, make a commitment that you're going to maintain a positive focus & be grateful no matter what happens. Most people can do something for a single day.
To really start
to change your thinking for today, find a focus object that will remind you throughout the day of your intentions. It can be anything, maybe a favorite watch, a photo that you set on your desk, whatever helps. On the day that you have
chosen for this change of attitude, concentrate for a few minutes on your chosen focus object.
Choose to feel the gratitude that you know is in your heart. Once you have that feeling & are absorbed in it, state your intentions for the day out loud. It doesn't have to be long or elaborate or a presidential speech.
"Just for today, I am grateful for everything that happens. Every challenge will present something positive. When negative thoughts happen, I will use my focus object as a reminder that gratitude is my choice. I choose gratitude today."
Now, don't think for a minute that everything is going to be all sugar & spice just because you set an intention. It isn't that easy, but it isn't impossible. Your patience will be stretched & you'll lose focus, probably more than a few times.
There's good news though. The more often you have to CHOOSE gratitude, the stronger your focus will be!
When that first day is over, you're going to be very pleased with yourself. Perhaps
you didn't always maintain your focus on gratitude, but you certainly were able to focus on gratitude more than you have before.
Now that the first day is done, simply repeat. By doing
this a day at a time, you'll soon notice that it gets easier to keep your focus. As it gets easier, it will get to be more
natural until eventually it becomes a part of you. Amazingly, with starting on just one day, you can change the entire rest of your life.
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Why do people think like this?
Why do people label each other? It's one thing to write a
statement such as - So and so is a self absorbed narcissist; because you can write your
reasoning behind it - factual knowledge in knowing someone. But for someone to label a group of people like this is simply
a case of "Sticks and Stones!"
Anti-social Personality Disorder is a severe disorder
that includes – along with many other symptoms - the lack of a conscience. Without a conscience, people can deliberately
harm others without ever feeling guilt or remorse.
While it's very important to feel guilt at deliberately harming others, many people feel toxic guilt. Toxic guilt is inappropriate guilt – guilt that comes from self-judgments regarding having done something wrong when is no actual wrongdoing.
For example
Fran, one of my clients, was exploring the guilt she feels when she speaks with her mother.
“No matter what I say,
my mother always seems to feel hurt & then I feel guilty at hurting her. Sometimes I wish I never had to talk with my mother. I don’t want to not have a relationship with her, but I hate feeling guilty all the time.”
Fran’s feelings of guilt aren't coming from actually inflicting harm on her mother. Her feelings are coming from the self-judgment that she absorbed from her mother’s judgments of her. Her guilt is coming from the fact that she is telling herself she is doing something wrong. Fran falsely believes that if someone feels hurt, it must be her fault.
Fran’s mother taught Fran that when her mother was feeling hurt, it was Fran’s fault. Now Fran feels guilty whenever someone she is involved with feels hurt or angry. However, it isn't the other person’s feelings, nor their blame, anger or judgment toward her that's causing Fran to feel guilty.
It's her own self-judgment that is causing her feelings of guilt. If Fran didn't believe that she was responsible for causing others’ feelings, she wouldn't feel guilty when her mother or others blamed her for their feelings.
Fran actually knows that she isn't doing anything wrong, yet she continues to
judge herself whenever her mother or others are hurt or upset. There is a very good reason for this.
Fran WANTS to believe that she is causing others’ feelings because it gives her a sense of control over how others feel about her. The wounded part of her that wants to control how others feel about her reasons that,
“If I can cause others to be hurt or upset, I can also cause them to be loving & accepting. If I just do things right, then I can control how others feel about me & treat me.”
This belief in control gives Fran the illusion of safety. She doesn't want to know that she isn't in control over how others feel about her & treat her. She doesn't want to know that she doesn't pull the strings on others’
feelings & behavior.
While Fran doesn’t like the feeling of guilt, she's unconsciously willing to go on feeling guilty in order to maintain her illusion of control. If she comes into truth about her lack of control over how others feel about her & treat her, her toxic guilt will disappear.
Toxic guilt & an addiction to control go hand & hand.
We all need to be able to feel healthy guilt - the guilt that comes from actual wrongdoing. But toxic guilt isn't good for anyone. You can move beyond toxic guilt by understanding that:
The way out of toxic guilt is to:
With practice, you can completely eliminate your toxic guilt. It’s all up to you!
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Interesting and insightful read this article posted in 2005 by author Marianne Szegedy-Maszak at US News
and World Report
After never being allowed to
"feel" or experience my emotions and feelings beginning early in my childhood, I began to learn how to process each emotion and feeling that came my way. My only difficulty seemed to be was knowing how to process feeling angry. I had never experienced healthy anger at all. I had this idea from my background of growing up in a family plagued with domestic violence and then each man I married was an abuser - I had the idea that anger came out to be physical violence.
Perhaps you can imagine how much
concentration this took. I had been emotionally shut down my entire life. I had to become absorbed
in emotions and feelings. This emotional intelligence venture remains a learning experience for me. It is difficult to know what it is I am supposed to be feeling when I am sad, for instance.
Recently I had a young friend
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