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welcome! to emotional feelings!
after looking things over here at emotional feelings,
try out "the layer down under," (part of the emotional feelings network of sites) & read a special "i
just gotta say it" column concerning porn addiction by clicking here! Be sure to scroll down towards the bottom of the right hand column to find it!
another important suggestion... visit
this homepage to learn more about the features included within the emotional feelings network of
sites!
I was personally very touched by this inspiring story as I watched it on
television last night (2/27/07); especially after I experienced a life altering injury which took me 2 years to recover from.
What I want to ask you is...
If you can't help out with the helmets, below for our military men, can
you volunteer or help our returning soldiers who are recovering with extreme traumatic brain injury?
Here are some links!
Check them out, I know that my family will be searching for a way we can help!
Remember that those experiencing traumatic injuries may develop mental health problems.
What is Operation Helmet?
Founded in 2003 by Dr. Robert H. Meaders whose grandson is an active duty Marine in Iraq, Operation Helmet is a nonpartisan 501(c)(3) organization dedicated
to providing safer helmet pad upgrade kits to the troops in Iraq & Afghanistan.
To date, more than 6,000 kits have been shipped to the troops in the field.
  How this site works best for you!
You'll
notice that there are many underlined link words in each article below. The reason for this is that you have reached not only, "emotional
feelings, the home site," but the emotional feelings network of sites. There are
many sites included within the network that'll be visited by clicking on these underlined link words.
If you can't find what you came
here looking for, visit the homepage for the emotional feelings network of sites by clicking above & read the options on
the homepage for the networks index of sites. Try to be specific when looking for an emotion or feeling word & click on the site you need!
It's very simple & very
interesting to follow your way thru the layers of your buried or stuffed emotions & feelings that have accumulated throughout the years!
when you've reached this point, or this website, you know you're making
progress!!!! this part gets difficult because now is the time to look within & become emotionally honest with yourself!!!
Best of luck & if you're
still stuck, send me an e-mail anytime, by clicking
here & I'll be glad to send you an immediate personal response!
Sincerely,
Kathleen
To accomplish great things,
we must not only act,
but also dream;
not only plan,
but also believe.
Anatole France
Levels
of Accomplishment
Before we discuss
the factors that come into play that account for great accomplishment in life, let's discuss different level of accomplishment that an individual can accomplish at. From our
experience we have observed that there are 4 fundamental levels that an individual can accomplish:
Survival: One
has a conscious or unconscious desire to remain at the current level of achievement in life.
No attempt is made to rise above one's current
achievement, nor is there an effort to raise one's own personal capacities. There's neither a quantitative expansion at one's
current level of life, let alone a qualitative movement to a potential higher level.
A real world example of accomplishment at the level of survival
is:
An instructor who has achieved a degree of success that keeps him comfortable, has a defined set of skills & has no desire, makes no effort, to acquire more work or perhaps even update his skills to be current to the present needs of his students.
Growth:
Growth, is an expansion of one's current level of achievement.
i.e.
- Expanding knowledge in a
field or another field at the same level
- Earning more thru greater
effort
are each expressions of growth. You're accomplishing
more, but it's more at the same level. It's a horizontal
expansion at the same level of capacity & achievement; i.e., an expansion of one's current level of achievement.
To accomplish at the level of growth the instructor
would learn the latest versions of the current programs he is teaching & seek out work with other companies to teach the
same things he's been teaching in the past. He'd be aspiring for more of the same work.
Development:
is an expansion to a higher level of achievement.
One may:
These are all expressions
of personal development. In all these instances you're accomplishing at a higher level, not merely more at the same level. This is a vertical expansion to a
new level of capacity & achievement.
In our real world example
at the level of development our instructor could have:
- An aspiration
to teach whole new subjects that are outside of his normal curricula
- Make contact with new types
of clients so he can teach these courses
- Write a book on the topic
of this new area
- Decide
to more fully implement in his work a value that he already cherishes, such as the value that students should come away with real knowledge in his classroom, rather than mere satisfaction of the experience
Evolution:
is an elevation of one's being to a whole new higher plane of consciousness & status of being.
i.e.
An emotional
individual could shift from the state where his desires & attachments predominate to becoming a person of more refined or higher emotions or move from being a predominantly emotional person to becoming a more mental & thoughtful person whose life shifts from one of emotional intensity to thoughtfulness. Perhaps the individual to acquiring spiritual capacities, such as the ability to experience knowledge as illuminations of light or intuition, or to find his personal evolving soul.
In these instances you're
accomplishing from a higher plane of consciousness than you were from before. It's a vertical
leap to a new plane of capacity & achievement; an elevation of one's being to a whole new higher
plane of consciousness.
In our real world example
of accomplishment at the level of evolution our instructor could:
- Change from being a person who competently performs his courses in an orderly & efficient manner
to an individual who's passionate about teaching & emotionally involved with his students.
- He may also develop whole
new theories of instruction based on his new level of consciousness, rather than merely being a teacher of existing ideas.
- His
overall attitudes toward his work have completely changed to the positive.
- He might move from emotional
interaction with students to a true knowledge; even utilizing spiritual methods as a foundation for his work.
Individual's Capacities &
Character
Accomplishment is
to a large extent determined by the individual's capacities, which in total are demonstrated in life as the person's character.
Our
individual capacities in life are made up a combination of a number of factors including:
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Our skills & knowledge in the world
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Our
attitudes about ourselves, others & things
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Our
endowments (such as the role our parents played in motivating us &
what they provided us & the influence of the society we live in)
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Our personal values (such
as a belief in being practical or being results-oriented)
Together these
skills, knowledge, attitudes, attributes & values constitute our capacities to function in the world.
The degree to which
we have them determines our abilities to accomplish in life. Any
effort to improve ourselves in any of these areas will surely go a long way to improving our ability to accomplish in life.
Results,
accomplishment, success in life are determined by the right intensities of these aspects of our being.
Below are some
lists of sample factors that determine our capacities & character in life. The factors are grouped into 5 categories:
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attributes
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skills
-
endowments
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Review the
lists & determine where your strengths & weaknesses lie.
Pick out a few
factors within each of the categories that you think you might be lacking in & think about how you can uplift yourself by making an improvement in those areas.
Then come up with
a real plan to improve yourself in that area.
Carry out
the plan with great determination. You're sure to see great improvements in your life, including greater accomplishment, achievement, success & happiness.
*Note: Some items one cannot readily improve
on, especially one's endowments, because they may have taken place in the past or other impossibility. One can perhaps still
learn to compensate, such as changing an emotional problem left over from the past.
Example Let's
then turn to the instructor & note his positive & negative capacities to accomplish. On examination we determine that he is:
- intelligent
- creative
- resourceful
- diligent
- faithful
- cheerful
- has goodwill
- is sincere
& frank
- has aspirations for improvement
These tendencies
will help in his initiatives for accomplishment.
On the other hand,
he can be:
- close-minded
- aloof
- hunger for attention
- be unresponsive to opportunities that appear
- be lacking in physical energy
In summary, the cumulative
capacity, energy & force of being, i.e. character, largely determines one's ability to accomplish
in life.
One can at any
time make the effort to improve in any of these areas, especially where one is lacking, which will surely dramatically increase
one's abilities to achieve & succeed in life.
THINGS TO THINK ABOUT: Examine the factors above & pick 1 or 2 items in each category where you THINK you're lacking. Then make the sincere, concerted & unflagging effort
to improve yourself in that area; in any aspect of your work, career, or other parts of your life.
You are allowed to have fun once in awhile! click here to play around with what people have accomplished
at a certain age!
Creating a Sense of Accomplishment
by Kevin Stacey
© 2003 TrainRight, Inc.
http://www.time-stressmanagement-training.com/
One of the biggest producers
of stress is going to bed feeling like you accomplished nothing all day but spin your wheels. Anxiety is sure to arise after an unproductive day where tasks are beginning to accumulate. When that
happens, it's almost impossible to relax & shut off the world for the night.
On the other hand, when we
end the day with a sense of accomplishment, we can exhale, breathe deeply, relax & sleep soundly. Our minds are free to focus on other pursuits & we wake up feeling re-charged, in balance & ready to face another day.
By implementing a few simple
time management strategies, you can create a sense of accomplishment
every day, no matter how often you are interrupted or side-tracked by other people:
- Divide your daily activities list into 2 columns: offensive & defensive. The
items on the offensive side of the column are tasks on your to-do list.
They may be projects with a looming deadline, or they may be usual, predictable activities. The items on the defensive side of the column are reactionary tasks, such as responding to crises, interruptions,
voice-mails & e-mails. Your lists will vary greatly according to your industry & how much autonomy you have
in planning your day & allocating your time.
- Review your list of offensive items.
Ask yourself, "What is one task that I can complete today, or make significant progress towards completing, that will make
me feel better about myself, my day, my job, or my work ethic? What achievement would make this day a success?" This task may not be the one you want to do. In fact, it may be the one you have been procrastinating on the most.
- Commit to spending a defined amount of focused time on the item you selected. If it’s
realistic to complete the entire task that day, firmly resolve to work on it for the entire day until it's finished. If it’s
a long-term project that you can’t realistically complete in a day’s time, give it a minimum of one hour. Spending an hour on offense is an hour more than nothing!
No matter how much time you allocate, make sure you fulfill the commitment. Use a stopwatch to time yourself & turn it off every time you get interrupted. You'll quickly see how fast your
offensive work becomes defensive reacting.
- If you can, leave your workstation & "hide" in an empty
cubicle or conference room. If you’re uncomfortable saying no to others & cutting off interruptions at the start, try working in a place where you can’t be interrupted
during your offensive time. If that’s not possible, turn off the phone, close the door, shut
down your email or put on headphones to give yourself some uninterrupted work time. When you have to push others away in order
to get your work done, remind yourself that this will help you relax tonight & feel like your day was a success.
Almost everyone can go on
the offensive for at least some part of the day. Some of us may have to arrive earlier or stay later when there's no one else
around.
Others may have to take more
drastic measures like making themselves scarce in an alternative location, or directly telling co-workers, "I’m trying
something different & I’m not going to be available from 10-11 am. Thanks in advance for your support."
Many people will feel some
initial discomfort when they stop acting defensively & start proactively managing their time. But
remember, it’s only when the pain of the old way supercedes the discomfort of the new way that change happens. However, if nothing changes nothing changes. So, what are you going to change?
About the Author: Kevin
Stacey helps companies & professionals achieve maximum productivity and effectiveness thru stress management & time
management training. He's available to speak on these topics. For more information visit http://www.TrainRightInc.com or call 1-800-603-7168.
© 2003 Permission is granted to reprint this article in print or on your web site so long as
the paragraph above is included & contact information is provided to reprint@TrainRightInc.com Thank you.
Sucking Up
kathleen howe
We're all familiar with the new set of "buzz words" being
used in the self growth community, but I'm using my own set of words in writing my articles. Being myself, integrating my
current small accomplishments into my new "self" is a challenge in itself. Sometimes leaving our false beliefs behind and
pushing away from our faulty thinking processes causes us to have doubts about what we knew to be true and what we now
hold as self evident truths.
We're growing and we all have had trouble in the past. We each carry our own self pride concerning who we
are and establishing a new identity that is close to our authentic self who has been missing for most of our lives, if not
all of our lives that we can remember - leaves us sometimes unwilling to admit our previous weaknesses to ourselves. We make
excuses. We blame those who love us. We sit in denial. Yep... that's what we do because we're still on a strong path to self
defense. We can't admit to ourselves that we aren't the perfect beings that we believed to be so.
Admitting to false beliefs causes us to wonder what is true and what is false. If I believed my whole life
that the sky is aqua and now I'm learning that the sky is truly blue - what does that say to my core belief system? Is it
all messed up or just part of it? How did I get this way? Oh! It's my parents' fault because I just believe what they told
me was right or wrong. I trusted them and look where it got me! I'll never be able to trust anyone else again. I so looked
up to my parents with respect and my convictions have been based on what I was taught by my parents.
Well - self growth is painful.
It seems like we must beat ourselves down in order to pull ourselves up. Why?
If you've visited the homepage
recently and read the new section describing what happens when we are born into this world - you will see that sometime
in our lives when we were very young something began to hurt us. Whether or not it was a "need" that wasn't being met, or
it was a personal hurt cast against us out of ignorance (i.e., the still debatable concept
of letting a baby cry for an undetermined amount of
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