the emotional feelings network of sites
is a not for profit personal network of sites offering information for self help purposes. In no way should the information
within this site replace advice given to you by a medical or mental health professional. Please, take the time to notify your
doctor of any changes you intend upon making concerning your diet, exercise, relaxation, sleep, counseling or medications.
the emotional feelings network
of sites works on a navigational system designed for ultimate education and understanding of all
topics. Upon educating and understanding the information within the network it will be the most beneficial experience
for you to make changes or take action in your life for change.
All underlined link words open up a new window instead of changing your present one, taking you to another site within
the emotional feelings network of sites - or to another site referencing the underlined
link word!
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What are you able to do?
See if you can find one thing on this page that you can do now...
It's very important that you visit the next page: keeping in touch!
You can help yourself by helping others. You might not think so; but it's true. Find something you can do to help some worthy causes. "Keeping in Touch" will show you some important causes that need you!
Imagine yourself as the newborn
baby you once were. Whether you're a man, woman, teen, grandma - you've somewhere in time encountered the miracle of
a new born baby. The miracle of course is the fact that the baby is pure. It hasn't suffered anything. It's beautiful, perfect
in all of our eyes. We can feel the newness, the pureness of heart & the wonder of the moment of pure innocence.
Close your eyes
to picture the very moment that you were born. Maybe you know the story of your birth, maybe not. But if you have some
kind of idea, do you know who was in the room when you were born? Who was in the waiting room of the hospital? Who waited
at home for the phone to ring, saying that the time had come?! You were born! And what was the very first thing you did?
With your knowledge
of your birth moment right this minute - how does your personal birth picture make you feel?
What is the first thing that
everyone wants to hear when a newborn baby is born? The
cry! Can you see the picture in your mind?
And so it is with every
baby that is born upon the face of the earth. Did you ever think about your own birth? What were the circumstances of your birth? When you are thinking about your own birth, what are you feeling?
Each of us has a different
story. Each of us are unique. We all had different beginnings. It's this unique, individual beginning that we build
on. As a newborn baby we are perfect. We are an empty slate that will be written upon throughout our entire lives. This is how you must think of yourself as you go through the emotion & feelings pages.
This process is how I learned that emotions & feelings were a vital part of personal growth & recovery. How can we emerge into a state of well being at a much later age, like me - beginning again at age 45! How could I understand why I was the person I was at age 45 if I didn't go backwards & see exactly what was written upon my empty slate - from
the very beginning of my life?
It's not an easy task, but I challenge you to walk through each of the sites with me as I tell you my story & how you can go back to see for yourself - how
you became the person you are today & what you can do to begin a life full of understanding & well being - both mental & physical as you find your own wisdom!
I'm sure you
can think of all the possibilities that the babies being born into the world today might encounter. What's being written upon their clean
black slates? Just as when you were born, every experience in every time is different. We're all individuals with our
own story, with our own unique journey.
When I began with the websites,
I began with the mental health site, anxieties 101. I was traveling blindly in determining what to do and where to go with the website!
It became apparent to me
after several weeks of counseling sessions that if I were to learn about mental illness - I would have to take personal responsibility for finding the information I needed to have. I realized that the system wasn't designed to give me what I truly needed. Therefore, I had to search the vastness of the Internet for my own information until I did have an understanding that I felt comfortable with. My problem was then, "how to use a computer and how to search the Internet!" I was completely computer and Internet
illiterate!
It took some time
for me to understand it all. I had NO clarity of thought. I had confusion, hurt & I felt as though I was stumbling through a thick fog. I was living in such turmoil & pain that I wasn't able to start at anyone's beginning. I did the best I could under the circumstances I was dealing with. I had to wait for the medications to take hold to alleviate the severe symptoms of mental illness I was experiencing.
I also had to admit to myself that I was experiencing mental illness.
That's sometimes a tough piece of meat to cut through. I had to grasp at straws to find a starting point after living one
year in my bedroom - totally isolated from everyone. I had to "come back to life" so to speak & find some element of who I was before I could go back to my
beginnings - able to see the connections.
You see our life is nothing but connections. The connection of our birth to what was written on our blank slate from then on. How we coped with the elements that were detrimental to
our well being as newborn babies, toddlers & then children. Connecting our early childhoods to our teenage years. Continuing the path of the volumes of written experiences that formed us into the people we eventually turned out
to be as a young adult.
It's all connected. Your family history, your first, second & third year of life, pretty much establishing
by then the actual personality, temperament (additional info concerning temperament click here) of the person you are today. Believe it or not... that's how it happens & if anything disrupted what might have been a "perfect" upbringing - who knows what might transpire.
Developing coping mechanisms when our needs weren't met, pushing through the parenting techniques of an untrained parent, dealing with not enough attention, too much attention, whatever happened... it all has a bearing
on who you are right now as you read my words.
And this is why I'm using this opportunity - the fact that
Lycos messed up one of the sites that is interwoven into the network - as a positive stepping stone to introduce to you all what I've learned throughout my 5 - 6 years
of personal growth & recovery.
The first site I designed was titled, "anxiety understanding."
After awhile, the whole concept had to change because I use "free sites" offered by Tripod. There's only so much "free space" per site - & I had so much information
to share with everyone.
I had no idea in the beginning about how much information
I would need to acquire an adequateunderstanding of mental health & mental illnesses.
"anxiety understanding" evolved into anxieties 101 after I had the benefit of learning volumes about mental health & mental illness.
I'm not sure how I grasped the concept of having
to change the "whole person" to recover from mental illnesses, but I had read so many articles that stressed the importance of some basic lifestyle factors & the direct correlation between the mind/body connection.
I also learned that each age group & gender had their own individual
symptoms, problems & concerns that needed to be taken into serious consideration.
End result after many different attempts - anxieties 101 is divided into 3 major sections:
Please find some time to watch this video. It
will change your life.
There is a direct connection between our emotions & feelings and our mental health. Not sure about that statement? Think about the people you've known or presently know that are depressed!
Did
you realize that more than 1/2 the people recently polled believed that mental illness, i.e., depression - was simply a "state of mind" that one needed to "snap out of."
This page is
offered because I found the information very important in understanding mental illness & recovery processes, how your brain works, how your brain is linked to many subjects, etc. as well as a glossary of mental health terms...
The
more you learn about mental illness, the more you begin to realize about how prevalent it
is within different age groups. therefore, I've broken it down into different age levels on each of the following pages...
Topics
concerning children & mental illness as well as info concerning the currently being developed site, children 101 - this site can be accessed while being developed! Additional pages linked off of this page: parenting 101
What
concerns women directly in relationship with mental health, parenting, career &
other issues -separate page for women about hormonal changes & connection with mental illness?
What
concerns seniors directly in relationship with mental health,
life transitions & other issues?
Lifestyle
factors have a huge link to our mental health. Thru my research I found that I needed an education concerning
my lifestyle habits that had a great bearing on my well being, so I included lifestyle pages on this site as well.
after returning home. As the director of the survey said, combat stress isn't something you just get over.
"It may manifest and
change their lives forever. These are men and women who have undergone experiences that are unlike anything else in humankind,"
Vice Adm. Donald Arthur said.
"I started smashing furniture, very
rapidly; so fast I didn't know what I was doing 'til it happened. I'd get mad so fast, so angry, and just lash out," Shannon said."
You can read the article in its entirety
by clicking here!
If you're feeling as though there might be a possibility
that you're experiencing depression, anxiety, panic, post traumatic stress disorder, obsessive compulsive disorder or a phobia - I urge you to click on one of the above underlined links to visit anxieties 101 to see if you're dealing with the symptoms of an anxiety disorder &/or depression.
Since anxieties 101 has been so busy, I've tried over the 5 years I've been working on the sites, to keep new & updated material
& information available for you always. In keeping with this thought, you'll see on every page of anxieties 101 a section titled, "in the news...."
You'll find pertinent articles that have been
recently published on the internet. All you do is click on the underlined title & a new window will open with the article
on it.
Now that anxieties101 has been such a hit - I've begun anxieties102! It was time. There is so much going
on today in the world of mental health that the size restriction at anxieties101 were met
long ago. It's time for expansion in the mental health world!
Keep reading in the right hand column as there are additional facts concerning
the emotional feelings network of sites over there!
After I removed the majority of the abuse information from anxieties 101 & emotional feelings - to make more room for mental health information, I designed abuse 101 to be sure to include the important information concerning abuse & domestic violence.
There is a direct
connection between mental health - emotions & feelings and daily environment! If your environment includes abuse of any kind - the
connections are very deep!
Today the domestic
violence shelters are not providing the abused women and children with what they truly need; which is a mental health evaluation for both the woman involved as well as her children. They are harboring unresolved emotions and feelings that will surface eventually. They need to learn about mental illness and how to resolve their old issues as well as their unresolvedemotions and feelings!
This is another
strong connection within the emotional feelings network of 28+ sites!
"anxiety understanding," my original website -
included a section concerning domestic violence & abuse.
These topics had to be omitted because of space limitations with the Tripod free websites. As I felt that there was more information that needed to be addressed with each topic, I omitted the topic from anxiety understanding and
then opened a new site for the omitted topic - ABUSE.
This process is how the network of 28+ sites came to be!
The new website - dealing with domestic violence &
other types of abuse - abuse 101 - was born.
I survived domestic violence & other types of abuse growing up & as an adult. While abuse 101 is in existence, it only has basic information available & it remains in need of more work on my part to make it more complete.
These buried, unresolvedemotions & feelings don't just go away because you're not thinking about them anymore. They lay inside of you & fester. The intensity of those unresolvedemotions & feelings escalates & manifests themselves into physical & mental illnesses - other emotions & feelings known as secondary emotions & feelings that begin to develop because your negativecoping mechanism isn't working well enough to cause you to eliminate the total memory or your current emotional pain from your current thoughts.
If you've ever asked the question, "Why doesn't an abused woman leave her abusive situation?" your answer is - she's probably suffering from several types of abuse that have escalated into some kind of mental illness & even physical illnesses. If she's depending upon her husband's
insurance to be treated for a physical illness - she can't leave the relationship.
After living in one + domestic violence shelters in my adult
years, I was never once asked if I was experiencing symptoms of mental illness. They may have asked me entrance questions;
but I don't recall anyone referring to mental illness. It was never suggested that I check into having a mental health evaluation.
It was never once suggested that my children receive a mental health evaluation or counseling.
I have to tell you that although domestic violence shelters
are a necessary system in today's world, they need to be re-evaluated to establish a routine of helpful assessments to help reduce the times a woman returns home to her abuser. A mental health screening might save hundreds or even thousands of lives if a victim might receive new of a diagnosable
mental illness that needs attention.
If a woman who has escaped into a domestic violence shelter
who has been experiencing depression due to her abusive relationship and environment - she needs to know that her children are at a very h
